Five Things A Woman Should Do For Herself

One of my sweet clients stated during our accountability session her husband has encouraged her to do something nice for herself. He offered to watch the kids for weekend so she could go and enjoy herself. Get this, he even gave her spending money! (Good job, dude!) My client, like most of us superwomen, has felt guilty about taking time away from her husband and children for an hour let alone an entire weekend.  So, me with my inquisitive self, asked her, “Well, what are you going to do?”  To my surprise and excitement, she said “I’ve booked a weekend at a bed and breakfast”.  YES!!!  Breakthrough!!!  
Many women, like myself, may not have the blessing of having a husband who sees the value of his wife taking to time recharge.  But, we all have lives that come with responsibilities and sometimes stress.  My client could have said no to her husband’s gift, matter of fact, she has said no in the past.  It was not until she realized her own value that she decided it was a good thing for her to get away.  My client’s get-a-way is now a part of her self-care plan. OK, I here you saying, “Tracey, I can’t take a weekend away all the time.”  Guess what!  Neither can I, but there are some things that we all can do for ourselves (and I highly recommend you should do them at least once). Take a look at the five things a woman should do for herself (at least once).  This list is a guide only.  Hopefully, this list will spark ideas within you.  Be sure to check apps like GroupOn for special deals on services in your area.

Treat herself to a spa day

Ladies, there is something about being at the spa.  You can’t help but leave feeling relaxed, rejuvenated and with skin as soft as a newborn baby. Depending on the treatments you select, a spa day can be a bit pricey.  If your budget permits, go for the gusto. If not, check with the local masseuse schools in your area.  Many programs offer massages administered by their students at a fraction of the cost.


Send herself flowers

You do not have to wait for Valentine’s Day, a special occasion, or a boo to send you a beautiful bouquet of your favorite flowers. One year, I decided to send myself flowers when the seasons changed. So, four times a year, I got flowers delivered to my job and had everybody guessing. I was not being deceitful. I proudly said I was the one sending the flowers when my co-workers asked. I even wrote an inspiring message on the card. Of course some people gave me their two cents about what I was doing with MY MONEY, but hey…I didn’t care. I had flowers and they did not (sticks out tongue).

Take a solo vacation

This one may take some planning but it is soooooo worth it! It is nothing for me to take a solo trip.  My theory is if I wait on other people to travel with me, I’d never go anywhere. I have traveled solo to Hawaii, St Lucia, and beaches in my state.  Again, if your budget permits, go for it.  Depending on where you want to travel and the time of year, you can find a great deal of vacation packages.  I have used my travel agent in the past to find deals because myschedule was full.  Again, check out sites like GroupOn and TravelZoo for last  minute deals and vacation packages.


This one may be my favorite.  I have been journaling for most of my life.  It amazes me when I look back and see how much I have grown.  Journaling is a great way to have a brain dump.  And this is little to no cost.  You don’t have to have a fancy journal.  A spiral notebook would work just as fine.  Write like nobody’s business.  You will be surprised at how much better you feel after a good journal entry.


Take a dance class

When I was a little girl, I had this dream of dancing with the Alvin Ailey Dance Company.  I still love to dance, but I’ve hung up my dream of being an Alvin Ailey dancer.  One of the funnest dance classes I took was a pole dancing class. Yes pole dancing!  I have a new found respect for exotic dancers because the upper body strength and confidence needed to work the pole.  HUNTI!!!! I had muscles flexing in places I did not know existed.  I also love Bellydancing.  Talk about feeling sexy.  I was able to get both classes at a really low cost by taking the class at a studio in my area.

BONUS:  Lose the guilt

I have said it once and I will say it again…


Even Wonder Woman took a break, therefore you can too.


EmPOWERed Action:

Create a list of at least five things that you can do to help yourself recharge.  Copying this list does not count. Be creative but be mindful of your budget and life responsibilities.

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