Two years ago, not far from the city where I live, a teenager jumped from a bridge ending her life. Her social media account revealed multiple cries for help. Her last tweet was absolutely heartbreaking. It read “When you go to your mom about your stress and mental issues and you are told to get over it”. Not only was this baby told to get over it by the one person who she thought could help her, but the comments after that were absolutely gut-wrenching.
One comment read “Your mom is right, you do complain a lot and you need to get over it”. Now, before you think I am judging this young woman’s mother and those who commented…STOP. This blog is a judgment-free, safe space; however, if you have been a regular reader, you know I will give it to you straight with no chaser in love. This baby suffered, cried out for help and everyone missed it. Everyone! Unfortunately, her story is not unique at all.
A few days after this young woman took her life, Kanye West was hospitalized. There are different reports stating why he was hospitalized but the majority point towards a mental health issue. Just like the young woman I mentioned above, Kanye has suffered for years. I truly believe he is still grieving for his mother and did like myself and most people have done, he threw himself into work instead of dealing with it. Now, I am not in Kanye’s circle and like most in the world, I am on the outside looking in. As someone who has suffered great loses, been told to get over it, and put on a brave face; Kanye was bound to break. I hate to see someone go through the breakdown, but I hope something good comes out of this. I pray Kanye gets the help that he needs and brings awareness to mental health.
Just recently, two high-profile celebrities committed suicide within days of each other. Lest we forget the hundreds of everyday people who commit suicide. Matter of fact, the suicide rate in the United States is at an all-time high. We have a problem, peeps.
There is a common thread I saw in the death of the young woman I mentioned above, Kanye and those who are gone way too soon. Humans have made some horrible comments.
Listen, if you have never experienced the death of a loved one, battled depression or battled with mental health issues…HUSH YA FACE!
Depression is REAL. Mental Illness is REAL. To those of you who are dealing with depression or other types of mental illness, I want you to know that you are NOT weak, you are NOT alone, and there is HOPE for you. You do not have to suffer in silence.
What you do have to do is get R.E.A.L. with what you are facing.
R-Recognize your triggers and seek out professional help. Going to a counselor is not a bad thing and if someone has a problem with you seeking help, they have an issue NOT YOU.
E-Expect tough moments but know that you can get over them. When I say get over them, it is not meant as a brush off. It is meant as a victory chant. Getting over it means you can overcome the hurdle.
A-Accept the fact that you will have highs and lows. Your grief process is yours and no one else’s. No two journeys are the same. Find the tools that help you through the process. Seeking help does NOT make you weak.
L-Love yourself. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God. He loves you. Every single part of you.
Finally, please do me a favor and do not suffer in silence. Do not isolate yourself. If you are having suicidal thoughts, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. This line is available 24 hours a day, seven days per week.
I love you and need you around to emPOWER the world. Praying for you daily.
EmPOWERed Action: Check on your strong friends.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255
Tracey Massey is a servant leader whose assignment is helping others live an emPOWERed life. She is a Certified Life Coach, speaker, and founder of Living My EmPOWERed Life LLC a service based company teaching women how to slay life without apology. Rooted in faith, Tracey is known for her method of teaching others how to overcome roadblocks with action. Her triumphant testimony recharges your hope for the future. Get plugged in with Tracey to start living the emPOWERed life that you deserve.
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