Oh 2018, I welcomed you with open arms and eyes full of hope. I can truly say you have been on and poppin’, but I have a confession. I’ve neglected a few things that bring me great joy. Clutch your pearls, boo, because I am about to tell you something that may seem crazy pants.
Here goes nothing.
I haven’t written a blog on my website since the summer of 2017. I haven’t gone live on my social media. I haven’t sent an email to the Power Squad consistently. I haven’t designed new apparel. I haven’t posted on my social media accounts on the regular.
Gasp! One of my mentors brought this to my attention and I was shocked. I have not taken care of home first! (Hangs head) Now, this does not mean I have idle and twiddling my thumbs. Oh no! Quite the contrary. I have been busy contributing to other people’s blogs, posting/responding to other people’s emails and social media, being a guest on other people’s projects, and buying other people’s merchandise. I have been supporting women I admire in various ways because of the importance of community. Chasing your dreams can be a tiring, lonely journey sometimes.
In my supporting someone else’s dreams, I’ve neglected my own. You see, sometimes, we want to be there for everyone and in doing so, we can easily lose sight of what is important to us. Now, I’m not saying that we stop supporting each other. What I am saying is be mindful when your support is causing you to lose your footing. Support in moderation is better than nothing.
In my situation, what I was doing came with some blessings. I have been able to get my name out there and make some great connections; however, I have neglected my baby which is a no-no. Always take care of home first! Your mind, your body, your spirit, your finances, your health, your business…get it? This is a form of self-care. Remember, self-care is not selfish. What you feed will grow. Think of it like this. When you fly, before the plane takes off, the Flight Attendant goes over the safety instructions (which you REALLY should pay attention to by the way). One of the instructions is in the event (God forbid) something happens to the plane, you are instructed to put on your oxygen mask FIRST before you try to help anyone. INCLUDING YOUR KIDS! Why? Because if the pressure in the cabin drops, that means there is no oxygen will circulate which means you won’t be able to breathe. If you have no oxygen, you pass out. How are you going to save anyone when you are slumped in the seat passed out? You’re not. You will actually need to be saved yourself.
Join me in taking the instruction of the Flight Attendant. Today, let’s take inventory of the things we may have put before our own needs, desires, dreams, and goals. As painful as this may be (because this means we are going to have to say “no” to some things and discontinue some things), we have to do some pruning in order to grow in the areas that God wants us to grow. Let’s face it, He is the best gardener.
Grab your journal for this one. Starting today and for the next seven days, take inventory of your life. Write down the answers to the following questions:
- What have I said “yes” to in the last 90 days?
- Does saying “yes” take me away from things that bring me joy and/or add to my life in a positive manner?
- How has saying “yes” helped my growth?
- How has saying “yes” hindered my growth?
- What are the things I will gracefully decline starting today?
- Is saying “no” a permanent decision or is it for a season?
- How has saying “no” helped my growth?
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Tracey Massey is a servant leader whose assignment is helping others live an emPOWERed life. She is a Certified Life Coach, speaker, and founder of Living My EmPOWERed Life LLC a service based company teaching women how to slay life without apology. Rooted in faith, Tracey is known for her method of teaching others how to overcome roadblocks with action. Her triumphant testimony recharges your hope for the future. Get plugged in with Tracey to start living the emPOWERed life that you deserve.
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